Why Emotional Abusers Don’t Want You to Confuse Them with the Facts

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

“Don’t confuse me with the facts!” “I need to see this from my reality only!” Sound familiar?

Have you noticed how arguments escalate with emotional abusers? They tell you that something is bothering them in no uncertain terms, but often fail to fill you in on what the hell it is. So here you are knowing fully what they feel, yet you remain in the dark as to why.

Then, if you get lucky, they may expand on their issue with you…and you feel this sigh of relief, because now you have something you can deal with or at least address. So, you seek to share your perspective, your position…your point of view. And wham, you’re cut off with, Don’t confuse me with the facts. My mind is made up.

To get this message through to you, the emotional abuser will pile on another layer of attack aimed to stop you in your tracks. It may sound like this…“Well, that’s a logical position, BUT…

You know a “but” is coming and with it is the next emotional assault. It may start with, “That’s the problem with you… You’re too intense, too convincing, too late with this explanation, too whatever to compel me to take you in and actually hear that you have something to say…worthy of my attention, much less my consideration.” Get the…