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The Two Most Fundamental Steps in Breaking Out of an Abusive Relationship
People ask me what is the way to break the cycle of domestic abuse? Or, they say how do I interrupt the abusive dynamics I’m in?
I think there are two things, which by their nature, aid in breaking the fundamental ties that bind abusive relationships. And here they are…
The Most Fundamental Steps in Breaking Out of an Abusive Relationship
1.) Document Your Experience
Document, Document, Document! Susan Murphy-Milano’s work influenced my life in the 90’s when she so potently expressed the value in documenting the abuse. However, at that time, I heard her coaching as a means for me to display and/or evidence the abuse to others…in order to protect my children and myself.
Fast-forward a couple of decades. Today, I add another profound value in documenting the abuse. Doing this one thing solidifies your understanding of your experience. Through the mere connecting personal events chronologically, you can step out of the river and experience the flow of water with detached awareness. (please read that again)
Through this perspective, you can more objectively assess your circumstances and options. And moreover, from this place you are open to insights expressing your higher good…your best…
