Narcissistic Abuse ~ The Affective Sword in Narcissistically Abusive Relationships

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Have you ever noticed how some people will do whatever it takes — literally — to get you to do as they wish. It doesn’t even matter what is going on with you; their belief is that they are going to get from you what they seek no matter what. So your experience, your feelings, your preferences, and your circumstances matter not in this equation.

Take Lindsay and Jack, for example. As usual, Lindsay could be Jack and vice versa (Jack could be Lindsay). Alternatively, Jack could be Jackie. You understand that these dynamics cross all boundaries.

When Needs and Desires Clash in Controlling Relationships

Jack arrives at Lindsay’s home on a summer evening. Without checking in with Lindsay, he pulls out his phone to obtain tickets to a movie for that night. The two of them had planned for Lindsay to stay at his home that evening. Thus, her bag was ready and waiting at the front door.

However, Lindsay was not feeling well. Seems as though she was fighting a bug, and the bug was battling back. You know how it is when you are under the weather. This part is not a factor for Jack. He doesn’t want to hear that Lindsay is not feeling well. This matters not, from his point of view. He places…