Narcissistic Abuse and the Empathy Void

By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Empathy is one of those golden words that says it all to many and says nothing to some. It’s the capacity to experience that felt by another. It’s the ability to authentically embrace — with open clarity — the feelings, needs and concerns of another person.

Some people have it, and some simply don’t. It can be hard for those accustom to giving and receiving empathy to stand raw and vulnerable with one’s loved one, and face a demand for empathy while in one’s greatest need.

Extraordinary Moments, Everyday Needs

Lynette, a surgical nurse, knows this far too well. Christmas was in the air on the morning that her daughter reached back for mother-daughter holiday time. She had been waiting for this moment for years and finally the day was upon her.

It was all so perfect for a long over-due reunion of parent and child. They were both filled with excitement over the prospect of having this special time together. With enthusiasm, Lynette shares the news of her child’s desire with her partner Doug. The last thing she expected was his interference because he, too, has issues being estranged from his own adult children.

When Empathy Is Not Possible