How to Identify Legal Domestic Abuse Between You and Your Attorney
by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Would you know if you were entangled in legal abuse? Here’s how it looks, feels and acts. In the beginning, your attorney is telling you everything you want to hear…. and then shortly after, not telling you anything that is going on.
There is a constant flow of emergencies that happen exactly during your working hours of which he/she knows… and then, not being available to take your returned call on your day off.
You realize you cannot work and you have no free time. There is no respect for you…what so ever in this process.
Your documentation is not read, much less understood, but you are paying as though that did indeed occur. When you are with an attorney like this, you know something is wrong…you are not being represented…nor respected.
You confront counsel with the way you are treated or what they are up to and sure enough, you are under attack by the very person you thought was supporting you. You pause.
Essentially these people take your case and they do nothing, but occasionally hold your hand or scream at you. But most of the time they ignore you, unless they can engage you in some perverted conversation that satisfies their fantasies and desires.
Legal Domestic Abuse
Now wait… I hope you are sitting down. Then, it occurs to you that you are a victim (I hate using that word) of legal domestic abuse. You see that the negotiations were about counsel, not about you. And instead of counsel representing what you seek, he/she is trying to talk you into accepting this new version of the deal.
However, this version of the so called “deal” violates you and your pocket book four times what it should take for two attorneys to close this deal. And you are told something is wrong with you for not accepting this “offer.”
The door slams and your counsel refuses any further assistance as you stand in your vulnerable moment. You heard me, these are legal domestic abuse dynamics between you and your attorney.
I have been in this work of domestic violence divorce since 2000 in some form or another. One thing that is clear to me from all of the cases I’ve seen and experienced is these dynamics are apparent when they are in play. You feel them, you know them, you see them.
Wikipedia defines them as such: “Legal abuse refers to unfair or improper legal action initiated with selfish or malicious intentions. Abuse can originate from nearly any part of the legal system, including frivolous and vexatious litigants, abuses by law enforcement, incompetent, careless or corrupt attorneys and misconduct from the judiciary itself.”
If you recognize these dynamics in your legal proceeding seek to understand the concept of legal domestic abuse and grab the wheel before you end up under it.
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