Emotional Exploitation Abuse ~ Using Your Emotions to Extract Your Compliance

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Have you ever experienced yourself giving into something you know that you do not want in order for you to turn off the ache of the emotional stirring triggered to get you there. If your partner is practiced in emotional abuse, I trust the answer is yes.

This partner (male or female) relies heavily on the use of your own inner suffering to yield his/her desired outcome. So let’s say he/she wants you to go to an event that you do not want to attend. You know it is not practical for you to travel to this event, nor do you have the physical wherewithal to participate.

But as you probably know your experience and preference are immaterial to your partner, as their agenda is singularly focused to get you to do one thing: comply with their wishes.

FOG Vehicle as Converter

The FOG is the vehicle that drives you there. It is an acromion representing the emotional composite of Fear, Obligation and/or Guilt (coined by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier).

Many things are typically said to trigger fear, obligation and guilt. It could be statements like this:

• “If you don’t do this with me, I will get someone else to be my partner for the night.”…