Domestic Violence Therapy ~ Finding Your Answers from Within

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

There are no “right” or “wrong” answers when it comes to domestic violence. Each situation is as unique as each person living it. You heard me. There are as many variations to this story as there are people living it. So, don’t let anyone tell you what you “should” or “shouldn’t” do.

Far too often survivors of domestic abuse look to other people for answers to questions that truly lie within. They pursue the “wisdom” of those they pay for legal advice to those that shelter them from the danger in their homes. And sadly, they do this all awhile ignoring their own inner most wisdom.

It’s almost as if their inner voice does not speak to them or they have become accustomed to letting its guidance fall upon their own deaf ears. I certainly don’t fault them for being out of touch with themselves in this way; I see it as going hand-in-hand with living in an abusive relationship.

Let’s face it, when your significant other bombards you with discount upon discount, eventually you grow to discount yourself. And with that said, you can see how that inner voice stops speaking when you need it most. It certainly did for me in the years that I lived in an abusive relationship.