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Abusive Relationship Signs ~ Is Your Love Endlessly Inadequate?
“I am convinced that you do not love me the way I want/need to be loved by you and I will spend the rest of my life convincing you that this is so!” Sound familiar?
Some people are so firmly attached to their delusional thoughts about how you don’t care about them that they will do just about anything to convince you of their reality.
And in this charade you become increasingly tired, disenchanted and lonely. You know that no matter what you do and what you say, your partner will find some “evidence” lurking in life to confirm his/her belief that they hold as gospel truth.
This so-called evidence then becomes their handle to lure you into countless arguments over their proving your inadequate love for them.
If You Loved Me, Then You Would…
In their mind, if you loved them then you would be doing ABC for them or you would be giving XYZ to them. And in either case, chances are you probably wouldn’t be able to deliver it to their satisfaction.
Your perceived deficiency keeps their belief about you in check. And you go round and round this merry-go-round of defective loving. Let’s face it, if you really loved them, you would ABC.
