Abused Men ~ 8 Tell-Tale Signs of Battered Men

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

If you think battered women are stuck in their mess, you haven’t seen “stuck” until you have met a battered man. To me, it is so very sad. I attribute their being as stuck as they are to the fact that they have little to no social support and resources to assist them in ushering themselves to safety as do battered women.

Even worse, the social system surrounding them encourages then to shut up and stay put, because “no one will believe you anyway!” They are convinced that their victimization will be laughed at, ignored, ridiculed and dismissed. The conclusion these abused men draw from what they are told is: “why bother.” And so, they remain stuck.

It’s hard enough rising above the glue that binds abusive relationships, and then to get the response these battered men receive is a disgrace. Now, I am not talking about the male batterers who do a flip and pretend to be victims of domestic abuse. I am talking about the real abused men. These are the men who are systematically abused by their female partners.

Identifying a Battered Man

Would you know the difference between a “real” battered man and one faking it? If you are reading this article, you probably have an interest in understanding the concept of battered men. You’ve probably been…